I’m baaack from my weekend with Tony 
Robbins. This Angel of Fire made it across the hot coals and celebrated her a** off (my hubby did too!)
Happy to say – NO burns on our feet.
You may of read in the news about the 21 people who got burned walking
across hot coals and the fear reporting around this event.
(FYI: There were over 5000 people who walked burn free. Now that’s a better use of your focus, right?)
My prayers go out to each one of them to heal fast and to Tony for holding strong during this kind of publicity.
Personally, I’m not interested in wasting your time about that part and want to give you a nugget you can use immediately to bring any area of your life to the next level.
How To Make Your “Should-Do-List” Work for You
Watch this video to get the exact shift I made that took me from shoulding myself to making things really happen in my life.
Hint: It’s so simple that you may fall off your chair so make sure you are grounded and focused.
“A belief is a feeling of certainty about what something means.” – Tony Robbins Click to tweet if you agree
Thou Shalt Not Should Thyself (or anyone else.)
No, I didn’t drink the kool-aid. I was a bit of a skeptic and not into Tony Robbins for years. Then I lived in a place of, I “should” go to a Tony Robbins event.
It was a bit of a push-pull that kept me from making it happen. This is true for all of my should’s. I should learn another language. I should make a documentary about adoption. I should jump out of a plane. I should…
By making this one shift in my language a clear decision was made with purpose. This is exactly what helped me walk across those hot coals to overcome my fear of getting pregnant, not let M.S. beat me and go from teaching yoga to becoming a coach.
I had no idea what I really did and now with this distinction of turning a “should” into a “must” and knowing my outcome there’s a proven formula that works for anyone who decides to turn this around.
You know this…
Should’s don’t go anywhere because they keep us safe. Safety definitely has it’s place until it turns into complacency. Then it becomes suffering for no real reason. You deserve more.
We all know what to do but we don’t do it. If you are into short cuts then you are in for a treat that I learned this weekend that will help you get out of any should-to-list rut.
What’s On Your Should-Do-List That You Want To Make Happen Now?
Now together let’s put this into action. Imagine I am talking you through this. If you didn’t watch the video, scroll up and you will hear my voice. (pssst… self help does not work only real action works.)
Step-by-Step Action Guide to Shift Those Should’s into Must’s
Action step: Put on some of your fave tunes on and get your body into it. Write out a list of all your SHOULD’S then choose one to work with for this exercise. Give yourself 5 min max.
What should’s do you keep telling yourself? I should…
GO!
[Ignore having to make all of them into a must, only one for this next month. Keep it simple and moving forward so it will happen.]
Action Step: Now answer these questions fully from your soul.
Why must it happen now? Get to the outcome, vision and meaning.
GO!
Action Step: Last step, answer these questions from your heart.
Put your hands on your heart and take a few deep breaths.
What will change for you when you do it? Your mind will want you to stop, your heart will yearn for more. Listen to your heart.
GO!
TIME TO CELEBRATE!!!
Celebration is a key ingredient for you to take your life to the next level. And it’s waaay better with others so let’s get this party started.
1. Step up, you are a soul sister with a mission to make your life even better. Tell me in the comments below your #1 MUST.
Tell me: Why you must now and What will change for you when you do – don’t hold back.
2. Share this post, video and tip with at least one friend who SHOULD’S more than you.
[I know you know a few should-a-holics out there.]
We need a world of awake women that are on the must train to make their lives and the world we live in a better place.
Are you with me? When you put it in writing your brain gets fired up and you start to see all the opportunities you’ve been missing from living on the should train. Thank for playing and blessing this world with your presence. Now it’s going to get even brighter.
Your angel of fire,
In french there is no difference between the word must and should but your action guide totally helps to make the difference in the energy. It’s like changing of glasses
Hopefully what I’ll write next will be understandable, because when I work with non-french speaker I use more energy, intuition, and creativity than english. because words are not the most important. So :
I totally get you about the fear of being pregnant. I’ve been there. And the way it has been solved is a mix of my own professionnal skills + the surprising part of Life !
I’m totally with you by my heart about this fear, because pregnancy and giving birth is a huge fire walk, but in the water element. Being Pregnant and becoming a mother is a big path of work on ourselves. There’s an energetic flow that tunes at this moment.
In France there is an interesting yoga method for pregnancy. Martine Texier has written 2 books about it with pictures. i don’t know if it’s translated in english, BUT as you practice yoga, maybe you can understand anyway ? (if not, maybe I can help you by translating a bit some parts for you ? Just tell me)
But back to your action guide. You know what popped in my head at first :
“I should talk to Hillary”, even if I’m not really fluent in english ! lol Totally unexpected ! I think I might feel connected, because we both faced sexual abuse.
You are sweet Sev! Glad you enjoyed the action steps. For the record I was not sexually abused, physically but not sexually. Just want to make that clear. Keep up the good work. xo Hillary
I must learn to love myself and receive love from others.
The outcome will be healthier relationships with myself, my family and my friends.
I will be able to openly talk to the ones I believe support me. I will understand that I can’t do this alone.
I am learning small steps to achieve this. I have recently paid for professional pictures of myself and my artwork. I have also attended a friend’s event for her business and began conversations with people, which I could never do before.
I believe this will be so much easier when I truly love myself!
Thanks for your video, Hillary!
Christy you are on the right path. You can truly love yourself because it’s a must and will have ______________ outcome. It’s up to you! Here to support you.
I must break up with myself. I have been in an abusive relationship with myself for 2 decades, and it’s time to end it. I must change my inner dialogue from abusive, critical, and degrading into a language of love, support, and encouragement. I must practice this as a daily way of being, so it will become a habit. I’ve hated myself for far too long.
Thnaks for sharing your heart Sheila!!!I’m here to support you.
Hillary