Maybe it’s at your job? With your career choices?
In your relationships? Or around money?
This idea of proving may be living in your subconscious
or you may be conscious of how you push yourself to
achieve something in your life that you don’t really want.
Know this — It’s not your fault.
I believe it’s part of an an old paradigm that does not work anymore.
I grew up being told I had to prove myself to the world to get anywhere.
This became a nasty stain on my psyche. It influenced all my actions and at the core I felt I was never enough because I had to prove my worth. Every day of my life I was thinking to myself, “I have to prove myself in order to get the job, to be loved, and to be somebody.”
It’s sick when you really think about it.
I never thought what I did was enough. I forced to make things happen. I forced to get the right job. I forced to prove I could be somebody to land a PR position at Prada. This one was was more for my family and to prove to the world I could be “somebody”.
It was exhausting and a very unhealthy way of being. Now I see the price I paid and all the lessons I had to learn. Most of them hard way.
Where in your life are you feeling you need to prove yourself?
Ask yourself, “Where in my life and I feeling I need to prove myself?”
Does anything come up? Is it your voice? Or is it the voice of a parent, teacher, relative or someone else who was important to you in your life?
Be curious here.
What influenced you to believe this?
Did it serve it’s purpose?
Is it time to retire this way of being?
Is it time to move forward with a new belief?
What if we committed to give up having to prove ourselves in the world?
What would that look like at our work, in our homes, or in our relationships? Very different. Starting with letting our guards down. Loving others as they are and letting go of what they decide to do with their lives.
No longer feeling like we are not enough and walking inadequacy to the door and letting it out of our lives. Sounds like a world I’m ready to live in. Are you?
It is possible…
We can BE ourselves and no longer have to be someone else or think we need to prove who we are for anything. We can taste the freedom of doing what is right for us and let go of the dreams that were projected on us. To really make this happen we have to do one more thing.
We also have to commit to letting everyone else not have to prove themselves too!
This goes for your partner, co-worker, team member, assistant, family or any other relationships you have. Tricky, but true. This is the REAL work for all of us.
Not just to release proving ourselves to be ourselves BUT opening up for everyone else to do the same.
Let’s say you are dating and in the back of your mind you are thinking in order for them to win your heart they need to prove themselves this will have to shift for this movement to work.
Who in your life are you wanting them to prove themselves to you?
If you catch yourself that’s great because then you can release it and be FREE from being part of this paradigm of thinking for good.
ARE YOU WITH ME? Ready to give up having to prove yourself? And just be yourself?
Let’s explore this together…
First: Take a moment to check in to see where you are having to prove yourself? Is it in your work, relationships, health, etc….
Why do you do this?
What is the influence?
And is it working for you?
Second: Note the area of “proving” and begin to see how you can BE instead of prove.
Are you ready to release the thought of having to prove yourself?
What needs to shift around this so you can BE?
What is the first step you can take to start BEING instead of proving?
Last: Are you in? Leave a comment below saying, “I’m done with proving myself + ready to BE myself more everyday.” (Or something that feels right for you so we as a community can support you with making this happen.)
Let’s make this paradigm shift real around having to prove ourselves and start waking up as a community so we can live a soul-fulfilling life
Your Angel of Fire,