I just had a conversation with a fellow coach and we both agreed this was one of the scariest and biggest steps we took to free ourselves.
What I’ve been seeing lately with coaches, business owners and clients, is they are excited about what they are up to but are not 100% behind themselves.
There is a distrust. A waiting for the other shoe to drop.
The “I have to know everything right now and be further ahead” mentality that tugs
at their soul.
This was taught. All of it.
All of us have been taught to think the way we do.
To act the way we do. To live our lives the way we do. And we can do something about it.
What I believe our personal growth journey is about, IS UNLEARNING.
It’s letting go of being the “good” girl or doing the “right” thing or not being a “tall poppy”. It’s challenging the thought of, “Don’t rock the boat and do what you’re told.” It’s dreaming big and taking small steps, even if people think you’re going crazy.
Basically, it’s questioning every part of ourselves and deciding what we want to keep believing and letting go of what we don’t. This is one of the only things we can control and are free to make up our mind about.
It’s also being aware of and questioning the information coming into our world. Then being discerning if we want to subscribe to any of it. We are free to say, “NO!”
Do I get an amen?
And remember all of what is being questioned is learned.
Thank you Mr. Einstein, I could not have said it better myself.
Behavior needs to be questioned then unlearned.
If you are looking outside yourself to be validated, celebrated or told you are excellent, I’d love to know how that is working for you. It’s more like a drug, getting you to a high-high then a low-low. This is just another behavior that needs to be unlearned.
I used to do this and it made me nutters. I would be excited about something, then ask around what other people thought. In seconds I was either lifted up or the air was taken out of my balloon. I had to unlearn this behavior and many others.
I had to unlearn putting myself down. I had to unlearn wanting to be somewhere I wasn’t.
I had to unlearn that I was not enough. I had to unlearn comparing myself to others.
The list goes on and on….
Over years of releasing other peoples’ thoughts, ideas and dogmas that I did not agree with, I began to find my own information. I found my intuition, voice and creativity.
I know there are still things for me to unlearn and until I rub up against them or it’s pointed out for me, it will be part of my work in progress, called myself.
What I know now is the more I question what I believe to be true, the more I find my soul. I can tap into energy that is deep within me and validate who I am and where I am. Of course, I have my moments of what am I doing or who do I think I am, but instead of it throwing me off course for a month, it may be for a day or two.
What about YOU?
What behaviors do you need to unlearn? Question? or Challenge?
Where are you putting yourself down? Where are you second guessing your intuition or feeling because of something you learned as a child. Where are you wanting to be other than where you are because you think you need to be further along?
All good questions to ask. What do you believe and why? Is it your belief or something you just adopted to be yours?
We are all free to challenge this and change this. It’s not our fault we believe what we believe. And when the walls fall down because of something we thought was true but isn’t anymore, like Santa Claus, we get to heal that part and use it to grow. Or not.
When you are questioning make sure to be amused with what you find. Being serious about it or angry won’t get you anywhere. I promise.
Now it’s your turn, gorgeous, to free yourself.
Tell me in the comments below what the #1 thing you realized you could question or unlearn for yourself?
Once you got that, validate yourself for what you noticed, be amused and use it to grow. You got this and are on your way to freeing your soul.
Thank you for sharing, commenting and being part of my life. It’s because of you I question and ask you to do the same.
Your Angel of Fire,